{"id":10636,"date":"2021-03-07T11:15:39","date_gmt":"2021-03-07T11:15:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psychotherapy-londons.com\/?p=10636"},"modified":"2021-03-07T11:15:39","modified_gmt":"2021-03-07T11:15:39","slug":"what-keeps-low-self-esteem-going-article-1-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mind55555.com\/tr\/2021\/03\/07\/what-keeps-low-self-esteem-going-article-1-2\/","title":{"rendered":"WHAT KEEPS LOW SELF-ESTEEM GOING? ARTICLE 1, 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

Article 1<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tracey\u2019s story<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tracey\u2019s Bottom Line was \u2018 I am a failure She grew up in an achievement \u2013 oriented family , who sent her to a highly competitive school where acadmic success was paramount. Tracey was intelligent , but relentless oressure stopped her from performing at her best. She compensated by working extras hard , and this became her Rule. \u2018 I must always perform 110 per cent or I will surely fail.\u2019 So long as she could obey the Rule, she felt more or lessOkay about herself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if for some reason she could not obey it-she was ill , or exhausted , or simply had too much on her plate \u2013 then she was in trouble . Sticking to her Rule was not optional \u2013 she had to do it , no matter what : if not, it just proved she was right : she really was a failure<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

WHAT KEEPS LOW SELF-ESTEEM GOING?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s turn now to how the Bottom Line is activated and explore the vicious circle that keeps it alive. We will follow Tracey\u2019s story to illustrate how it works.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 2 <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Activation of the Bottom Line <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two kinds of situations activate the Bottom Line<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1- Situation where your Rules for living might be broken . In this case , what happens next will have an uncertain , anxious flavour.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2-Situation where you think the Rules definitely have been broken . In this case , what happens next will have a low, depressing feel to it. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1- Situation where the Rules might be broken .<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day Tracey faced a major challenge . She had to give an important presentation at work , in front of a new client and her line manager. She was afraid that she would make a mess of it, in front of everybody. It had not happened yet, but it might . Everything that might go wrong raced through her mind- predictions ,’ what ifs’, and’supposings’. She saw in her mind ‘s eye an image of herself, stammering, red in the face, every-one-staring with disapproval. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not surprisingly, Tracey’s oredictions sparked off anxiety . Her heart was pounding , her mouth dry , her mind in a whirl. This prompted even more predictions .<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What could she do to stop her predictions from coming true?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I will complete in article 3 soon.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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