{"id":10646,"date":"2021-03-09T08:55:44","date_gmt":"2021-03-09T08:55:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psychotherapy-londons.com\/?p=10646"},"modified":"2021-03-09T08:55:44","modified_gmt":"2021-03-09T08:55:44","slug":"what-keeps-low-self-esteem-goingarticle-123","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mind55555.com\/tr\/2021\/03\/09\/what-keeps-low-self-esteem-goingarticle-123\/","title":{"rendered":"WHAT KEEPS LOW SELF-ESTEEM GOING?ARTICLE 1,2,3"},"content":{"rendered":"

Article 1<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tracey\u2019s story<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tracey\u2019s Bottom Line was \u2018 I am a failure She grew up in an achievement \u2013 oriented family , who sent her to a highly competitive school where acadmic success was paramount. Tracey was intelligent , but relentless oressure stopped her from performing at her best. She compensated by working extras hard , and this became her Rule. \u2018 I must always perform 110 per cent or I will surely fail.\u2019 So long as she could obey the Rule, she felt more or lessOkay about herself.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if for some reason she could not obey it-she was ill , or exhausted , or simply had too much on her plate \u2013 then she was in trouble . Sticking to her Rule was not optional \u2013 she had to do it , no matter what : if not, it just proved she was right : she really was a failure<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

WHAT KEEPS LOW SELF-ESTEEM GOING?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s turn now to how the Bottom Line is activated and explore the vicious circle that keeps it alive. We will follow Tracey\u2019s story to illustrate how it works.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 2<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Activation of the Bottom Line<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Two kinds of situations activate the Bottom Line<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1- Situation where your Rules for living might be broken . In this case , what happens next will have an uncertain , anxious flavour.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2-Situation where you think the Rules definitely have been broken . In this case , what happens next will have a low, depressing feel to it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1- Situation where the Rules might be broken .<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day Tracey faced a major challenge . She had to give an important presentation at work , in front of a new client and her line manager. She was afraid that she would make a mess of it, in front of everybody. It had not happened yet, but it might . Everything that might go wrong raced through her mind- predictions ,\u2019 what ifs\u2019, and\u2019supposings\u2019. She saw in her mind \u2018s eye an image of herself, stammering, red in the face, every-one-staring with disapproval.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not surprisingly, Tracey\u2019s oredictions sparked off anxiety . Her heart was pounding , her mouth dry , her mind in a whirl. This prompted even more predictions .<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What could she do to stop her predictions from coming true?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Article 3<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

She was tempted to call in sick and avoid the whole thing.In the end, she decided she had to do it but took precautions to avert disaster , and stayed up half the night trying to make the presentation perfect in every detail. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Supposing in fact all went well? Rather than feeling pleased, Tracey would probably feel she had had a near miss: had she not taken those precautions , what she feared would certainly have happened. So her attempts to protect herself would actually stop her from discovering whether her predictions were valid, thus preventing her from updating her Bottom Line. On the other hand, supposing she was too tired to think straight and things went badly? Once again, her worst fears would seem justified . She really was a failure , confirming her Bottom Line. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

At this point, anxiety would change to something heavier, gloomier, self-criticism might follow the sense falure (‘Typical.I always make a mess of things.And if I don’t , it’s by the skin of my teeth.’) Then would come hopelessness.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I will complete in article 4 soon. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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