Underlying the emotion of frustration is the irrational belief ” I should not have to suffer discomfort.” This is often backed up by similar demands, such as ” the world must change to suit me” or ” Everybody else must change , not me”. As I often good-humouredly say to patients,’ Good luck with those demands!’ It is useful to redefine frustration as disturbance/discomfort anxiety’ in order to distinguish it from ‘ ego anxiety’.

In the latter, we are making some demands on the situations. When frustrated about something , we are usually demanding that other people or situations change so that we don’t have to suffer discomfort. This relieves us of the burden of having to change something in ourselves , or of accepting that it is not always possible to change circumstances , and that we must learn to adapt.

LOW FRUSTRATION TOLERANCE

To develop this skill , we must introduce another term:’ frustration tolerance’. This defines our capacity to suffer discomfort . None of us likes discomfort but we all have different endurance or tolerance levels. Those with high frustration tolerance levels can accept short-term pain for long term gain.

Article 2

Those with high frustration tolerance levels can accept short – term pain for long term again. Those with low frustration tolerance (LFT). However are not prepared to put up with short-term pain , yet still desire long term-gain.

A simple example of this might be where I might remain frustrated with my fitness regime, yet refuse to get off the couch.

So the real key to developing the skill of how to manage discomfort is to acknowledge that frequently in life we must learn to accept short-term pain if we wish to achieve long-term gain. Once you learn how to put this concept into practice in your everyday life , you will no longer struggle to deal with discomfort or expect the world or life itself to change to suit you.

To learn how best to achieve this objective, I suggest the following two frustration exercises.

Frustration exercise one:

Article 3

In the first exercise , we are going to challenge your low frustration tolerance as follows:

1- For the next eight weeks , I want you carry a note book around with you.

2- Whenever you encounter a situation where you find yourself feeling extremely frustrated about something , write down in your notebook what the trigger was and what your emotion was.

3- When you have a few quiet moments , take out your notebook and write down on a paper your answers to the following three questions.

What was your long – term aim or what did you want to achieve?

What short – term discomfort were you trying to dodge? Did your behaviour worsen the situation , and if so, how could you change it ?

I will complete in article 3 soon .

BUY ONLINE MY ROMANTIC COMEDIC PLAY BOOK

IT IS SOLD ON GOOGLE PLAY BOOK WITH DISCOUNT (eBooK). WELCOME TO BUY A COPY eBOOK £18.95 , YOU WILL RECEIVE THE COPY ON YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ON THE SAME DAY OF PAYING.

£18.95