“Man is affected not by events, but by the view he takes of them.” – Epictetus
That’s something I try to enforce as a rule at my home, you can be sad, but you can’t say “so and so made me sad” once victim mentality takes over it’s so easy to forget how much control one has to either grieve if appropriate or enjoy the day if that is chosen. Surprisingly since finding out how to not be sad, I sometimes embrace sadness as it is and it passes, but knowing what beliefs I have that caused my sadness is important to me, it doesn’t mean I have to be a robot without sadness, or let go of all my beliefs, but it is important to know what is going on with my feelings is centered around myself as the conductor of the emotional symphony. 🎭
Wow. I couldn’t love this anymore if I tried. You, are, correct. Not trying to toot my own horn, but, I am one of those people who have been lucky enough to figure this out on my own. Sometimes, when I can “feel myself slipping down”, I literally, and not figuratively, will take myself somewhere, sit myself down, put my hands in my lap, close my eyes then: Breathe. Pray. Think. TALK TO MYSELF. Most often I’ll even just allow myself a predetermined window of crying or sobbing if necessary. It’s this whole thing. If I had a magic wand and could just “zap” this power into the hearts and minds of EVERYONE I’ve ever known? Well, then I guess I’d just be zapping people left and right. Thank you for this. Makes me feel hopeful, and a little more empowered I suppose. — Cat
Dr. Wayne Dyer once said: “if you don’t believe that your thoughts create your emotions then send whoever it is that you think causes them and I will treat him”. Oh yes, we can immediately shift how we feel by shifting our thoughts and no one can do it for us
“Man is affected not by events, but by the view he takes of them.” – Epictetus
That’s something I try to enforce as a rule at my home, you can be sad, but you can’t say “so and so made me sad” once victim mentality takes over it’s so easy to forget how much control one has to either grieve if appropriate or enjoy the day if that is chosen. Surprisingly since finding out how to not be sad, I sometimes embrace sadness as it is and it passes, but knowing what beliefs I have that caused my sadness is important to me, it doesn’t mean I have to be a robot without sadness, or let go of all my beliefs, but it is important to know what is going on with my feelings is centered around myself as the conductor of the emotional symphony. 🎭
Wow. I couldn’t love this anymore if I tried. You, are, correct. Not trying to toot my own horn, but, I am one of those people who have been lucky enough to figure this out on my own. Sometimes, when I can “feel myself slipping down”, I literally, and not figuratively, will take myself somewhere, sit myself down, put my hands in my lap, close my eyes then: Breathe. Pray. Think. TALK TO MYSELF. Most often I’ll even just allow myself a predetermined window of crying or sobbing if necessary. It’s this whole thing. If I had a magic wand and could just “zap” this power into the hearts and minds of EVERYONE I’ve ever known? Well, then I guess I’d just be zapping people left and right. Thank you for this. Makes me feel hopeful, and a little more empowered I suppose. — Cat
Thank you Draling for your comment.
See you soon in London.
XXX
Dr. Wayne Dyer once said: “if you don’t believe that your thoughts create your emotions then send whoever it is that you think causes them and I will treat him”. Oh yes, we can immediately shift how we feel by shifting our thoughts and no one can do it for us