If there be one, try and find it.
Anon says,” For every problem under the sun,
there is a remedy, or there is none.
If there be none, never mind it.”
It may seem strange to have a section on problem -solving in my website. After all, you have been solving problems all your life , and are probably pretty good at it. You do it without thinking , and without even noticing , you are doing it most of the time .
So why do you need to be told ? It is because when you get depressed , your natural problem – solving abilities break down, and the skills that you used automatically before you got depressed may disappear. When problems come , as they inevitably will, they may seem overwhelming and impossible to deal with.
So in this article , we are going to describe the steps you can take to solve problems and get on top of things more easily and thus stop things feeling so overwhelming.
Before we talk about how to solve problems, we need to think about whether there is a problem to be solved. This is important because we have spoken a lot about negative thinking, and the way that depression makes you see everything in the worst possible light. But we also know that not all problems are in your mind . Sometimes there are real difficulties that need to be dealt with.
For any problem that we experience when we are depressed , we need to be able to tell the difference between our negative thoughts about the situation, which we need to tackle as we have already seen, and the problem itself , which we need to tackle in the practical way described here.
Imagine that you have been made redundant from work . This is l;ikely to be a problem for many people . You might be worried about paying the mortgage or about ever finding another job; you might be worried about what other people think of you. Dealing with difficult situations when you are depressed often requires two stages:
1- What are your negative thoughts about the situation?
In this example , it’s the idea that everyone will despise you, and you’ll never get another job. You can use the techniques on questioning Negative Automatic Thoughts to help you manage these thoughts – so you may end up reminding yourself that no one despised your friends when they were made redundant , and that one of them has got a new job and the other has set up a new buisness.
2- What are practical aspects of the situation that you need to tackle?
In this case , it’s working out the best way of finding a new job , and asking for help , such as from the Citizens Advice Bureau to manage your finance in the meantime.
There is another aspect of thinking about problems that we need to bear in mind. There are times in life when things happen that make us sad and low, but such feelings are natural and normal. Imagine that a pet has died, The pet- say a much-loved dog that has been in the family for fifteen years- died of natural old age . No one was to blame and no one could have done anything different , but the beautiful old dog has died .
Everyone is sad , and everyone misses him. These feelings of sadness and grief are natural – no one would try to solve the problem of sadness . There are times when feelings of sadness , loss and anguish are the right and proper things to feel, painful as they are. As we feel these painful emotions , we somehow learn to work through them, and to come to terms with the sadness .
In this sense, although there is a’ problem ‘ , there is no remedy . We just have to bear the sadness , until we have learnt to come to terms with it.
Once you have decided there is a problem that is not just negative thinking or natural sadness , you need to think about problem-solving.
There are a number of steps to follow:
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